Praising children with low self-esteem can do more harm than good. Says study

To some parent, praising children encourages them to improve, but a new study says otherwise. New study reveals that complimenting children with low self-esteem makes them feel under pressure to perform and so they avoid challenges.

The study’s authors, from British, Dutch and US universities, looked at how adults praise children and found that while it’s natural for parents to want to praise timid children more, it actually backfires.

240 boys and girls aged eight to 12 were asked to copy a painting designed to rate their self-confidence, the unconfident children were lavished with praise while the confident ones got measured appraisal.

The unconfident children who were praised lavishly were more likely to plump for the easy pictures than when they received measured appraisal. But the confident children rose to the challenge of being told they did well.

In the journal Psychological Science, researcher Eddie Brummelman said: ‘If you tell a child with low self-esteem that they did incredibly well, they may think they always need to do incredibly well.

‘They may worry about meeting these high standards and decide not to take on any new challenges.’