Life is amazing, but sometimes it’s
hard to acknowledge because of all the sticky situations and straight-up
terrible nonsense that happens in our lives.
Let me guess: Right when you FINALLY
think something is going great, something bad happens again. When does it end,
right? Why you? Why can’t you just be NORMAL like “everybody else”? How
come it seems like some people have no problems at all, and you’re stuck under
a constant avalanche?
The truth? I am not going to tell you
things will get better overnight. I am not going to tell you that terrible
circumstances you obviously don’t deserve are not going to come your
way. Bad things will happen; I can practically guarantee it. Trust me, I
know firsthand.
What I will tell you, however, is
that there are ways to live above these unforeseen circumstances. You can
make it through the unexpected situations; you can come out stronger than ever
and better equipped for the storms that will inevitably come your way in the
future.
Here are 10 ways to live above the
most unfortunate circumstances:
1. Trust
Trust things are going to work out.
Have you ever looked at a tree that is absolutely beautiful in the spring, but looks
pretty ugly during the winter? That’s because the tree is not in season.
You have to remember that, just
because you’re not seeing fruit during the winter of your life, spring will
come eventually. Trust that it will all come together in the end, even if
you can’t see it now. Your life isn’t dead; it just might be dormant for the
time being.
2. Change your plans
If you have been trying to make the
same thing work out, and time and time and time again, it fails, perhaps you
need to try something new. I’m not saying give up on your long-term
dreams; however, sometimes things don’t work out because they’re not supposed
to.
Quit trying to fix the air
conditioner with some bubble gum and sticky tack. Change your strategy.
Stop trying to force the situation with the wrong tactics. There is a reason it
isn’t working out.
3. Meditate
I know seems hyper-spiritual, but no
matter what you believe, you can still take time mold your habit of personal
reflection. Maybe to you this means meditating, or even praying. Perhaps
it’s simply taking time to relax with your thoughts.
Get in touch with your spiritual
self. Talk to the ocean when you surf. Talk to the mountain when you ski.
An inner peace tends to come with spirituality and meditation.
4. Be patient
What we are waiting for is not as
important as what happens to us while we are waiting because sometimes who we
become and what we learn in the process of waiting is what truly shows us the
way.
Think about it: We are all waiting
for something — a new job, a significant other, a phone call, another chance.
Perhaps, if you’re still waiting on whatever it is, maybe you’re just not ready
yet.
Waiting is not punishment; it’s
preparation.
5. Be positive, even when you’re not
positive
At work, a part of my job is to greet
people and ask them how they are. When they ask me how I am in return, of
course I am going to respond positively, even when I am having a bad day. And
you know what? I make myself believe it.
It’s funny because this same idea
works in reverse. If you keep telling yourself, or telling others, that you’re
just feeling mediocre, or you’re having a particularly bad day, well, that’s
exactly the kind of day you are going to have. There is true power in thoughts and words!
What you proclaim, you are. Whether
you succeed or fail is determined in your mind way before a situation even
plays out in real time — consider that for a moment. Change your thoughts, and
your life will follow.
6. Stop focusing on your stressors
instead of your blessings
Many times during your day, things go
exactly the way you want them to. Yet, when something doesn’t go according to
plan, you get upset.
It’s so easy to get preoccupied with
the problems in our lives. In reality, however, the things that go right
significantly outnumber the things that go wrong. It’s so hard to see it that
way sometimes because our problems become this unbearable weight that we feel
like we aren’t equipped to carry.
I get it: It’s easier said than done
to look at the positives over the negatives. It truly does take time. However,
you are already equipped. You might just need some strength training!
Practice makes perfect. Your circumstances
cannot control you as long as you choose constant inner happiness, regardless
of what’s happening on the outside.
7. Live in the now
No matter how much you think about
it, dream about it, or sweat over it, the past is over, honey. When you face
the facts, it can no longer hurt you.
Think of the events that happened in
your life as if they happened FOR you, not TO you. You have outgrown your past.
You are so much bigger and stronger now. It’s time to let it go.
8. Just go with it
Maybe the reason the situation you
had perfectly planned out went left instead of right is that the universe had
other plans.
Maybe it rains on that day you were
planning on having a sunny picnic in the park. So what? Have the picnic anyway,
and dance in the rain. Maybe it’s not how you planned it out, but that’s the
best part about it.
Just go with the flow and your
memories will truly be unforgettable. Consider the rain a blessing. Some
problems are just out of our control, and there’s not much else we can do
except adapt and figure out how to move on!
Obviously, I realize that your
problems are on a much larger scale than a picnic. However, if you start to see
the small circumstances this way, you can most certainly begin to see the
larger issues this way. Perhaps once you do change your mindset, you will
realize that, in reality, you don’t actually have many stressors.
9. Have faith
There will definitely be moments when
you won’t know what’s coming next, like those terrifying blind spots in your
car, or rainy nights when you can’t see the road.
However, if you keep moving ahead
(even if it’s at 5 mph), things will begin to clear up. Keep the faith, and
know you will reach where you want to be. The destination remains, and a little
rain or crummy vision cannot change that!
10. Turn your mess into
your message
I know it’s hard to see it this way
right now, but the pain you are going through is temporary. When you get out of
this tunnel (or even while you are in it), your story will inspire other people
who are going through hard times themselves.
Let your life be your anecdote. If
you need solid proof of that, well, you’re reading it. This article is MY
testimony.
Maybe I don’t understand why you have
to go through the things you do. Perhaps I have not walked in your shoes. But
what I do know is that IT WILL PASS.
You can’t just hope it blows over,
however. You have to put in the conscious effort and strength to press on
and fight for what you deserve. Will it be hard at times? Yes. Will you get
frustrated? Absolutely.
Every little part of the journey is
beautiful, no matter how precious or even how unfortunate. You can live above
and beyond any circumstance because you are strong; you have
willpower, and you are dang well worth it!
Get out there and show your life who
is really in charge.
Source: Elitedaily.com
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